“…A forgotten friend
Yours in loyalty, in friendship
To the end, to the end.”
These lyrics written by Maria Daines and Paul Killington really do hit home for me. I’ve never really been the friend whose had a surprise birthday thrown for them. Or the one who gets invited to things on the side (in fact I’m always happily inviting myself). I know I am not alone in these feelings. Maybe your job is not giving you the kudos you deserve. Or you are not feeling appreciated by your husband. Maybe after years of nurturing your child they have walked out on you for reasons you can’t understand. Does it hurt? You bet it does. Lately though, in this past year in growing in myself, I remember someone else like this: Jesus (and I am not saying we forgotten friends are Jesus). Just real quick, read those lyrics again and think about what it means.
A Forgotten Friend:
When things happen in life, who is the first person we point the finger at? Jesus. We forget the good that he has done and blame him. Jesus has never forgotten you and while you might think you are being ignored by your friends the real testimony here is true friendship is costly. It’s okay to drift apart. It’s natural. Some people are meant to stay in your life and some aren’t. It’s sad, but it’s also supposed to happen, however maybe you’re not forgotten. The Lord puts you in certain situations for a reason. To impact other people’s life. John 15:13 says, “Great love hath no man then this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” Are you willing to pay the price and the investment?
Yours in Loyalty, In Friendship:
Is Jesus not loyal? You bet he is! So I ask you while Jesus is loyal does the problem start with you? Are you loyal? In John 15, He says to his disciples, “I no longer call you servants. . . Instead I have called you friends, for everything I have learned from my Father I have made known to you.” Maybe this time is for you to focus your attention on yourself. For the golden rule in order to love someone you first have to love yourself. We have to be loyal to the most important and that’s us, for within us is Jesus. Maybe my place on earth is to be loyal to others? Not everyone is going to be a doctor. Not everyone is going to be a good friend. Perhaps this is my gift. To cross paths with certain individuals. To help them see they are not alone or forgotten. And in return, we actual have a forgotten friend of our own. Someone who gives us council and you may never know it.
To The End, To The End:
Jesus is so loyal that he died on the cross for us. His end was our beginning and I find that so amazing. Just like in friendships the ones who are supposed to stay and love you will. My father told me at a young age that when you die you will have 5 true friends, and as of right now, he is correct. To the end might mean a friendship, but YOUR role was to help this person with a miscarriage, a divorce. A mother who didn’t think she could raise a child. Or flip side you were suppose to bring two people together or help someone grow within themselves. Know your worth. Keep the fire burning and the spark alive. Friendship is hard. It takes work and you must be willing to pay the price to make sure it is a genuine relationship. The return investment for this though, is a life long friend to the end. And if you think about it, we really aren’t forgotten friends. We are life’s cheerleaders, and that is awesome.