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The Beautiful Scar

Someone very special to me wrote this article back in April, but I asked her if I could post this on Mothers Day instead. I find it powerful as I also had a C-Section in order to save my daughter.

“As I was surfing a social website, I came across a poster PIN expressing the disdain for the apologetics of having a C-Section and being reminded of the event every April. I did not know April was C-Section Month. My first reaction was, “who comes up with this stuff?” Then, I paused and remembered the events surrounding my emergency C-Section.

I never started out to be a ‘one in three’ C-Section statistic. My pregnancy was considered high-risk due to a prior birth complication, but my visits to my OB-Gyn were going well.

While enjoying a hamburger fresh off the grill at a Memorial Day celebration, the contractions started. Arriving at the hospital, the contractions were hard and deliberate. To my delight, motherhood would soon arrive. However, complications returned and to save both of our lives, an emergency C-Section process was initiated.  As I was in the recovery room, I remember dreaming of The Muppet Babies and Little Miss Piggy, so I was sure my baby was a girl. Sure enough, when I was finally awake and in my room, my husband brought me our daughter.

He laid her beside me.  I am not sure how high the dopamine soared in my body, but the smile on my face said it all. As I turned to reach for her, the 6 inch vertical incision reminded me the price paid to bring our daughter into our lives. I see the scar every day, and would gladly do it again to keep the lifeline beating with all its joy and love such a child has brought to us.

The question remains as to why have a C-Section Awareness Month? Those of us who are fully aware of what our scars mean to us, do not need to be reminded that we would do whatever it takes to bring our children into the world safe and loved. While the objective is to bring awareness that women have a choice as to the birthing process, I celebrate Awareness Month to be mindful how strong, brave and beautiful women are that carry these scars.

Strong: While the body must prepare itself for a birthing altercation, emotionally, the mind is in preparation for delivery day and the weeks that follow to allow ourselves to heal, coming to terms with our new situation and getting our mindset ready to move forward.

Brave: Many do not realize that when the decision is made to begin operation procedures, Mom is faced with waiting alone while she is prepped for surgery. She is brave for the child she anticipates meeting and must calm herself, so that her child feels her love and not her anxiety. Only she has the power to quiet her mind and be brave.

Beautiful: I am not a big fan of moles as some of mine are a source of irritation. I went to the doctors to have one removed and after the procedure, he looked at me and said, “never remove this one (he pointed to my right cheek) – it is your beauty mark and defines you”.  I had never given much thought to a mark on my face being my defining point. Frankly, I always thought my eyes were my best feature.

Perfection is not about beauty marks, nor do scars or statistics define who we are. I have come to believe that beautiful is being comfortable with who one is and we should not have to defend ourselves about a decision to bring life into this world by a means other than natural childbirth.

Not all soil is conducive to growing every variety of flower. Success is in the soil, but often it needs assistance producing magnificent blooms. So does our bodies. Not everyone can have natural childbirth, but just as the flower find a way to bloom through a crack, we can make the best of our situation and bloom where we are planted.”

–Stella

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